This one might be tough to hear...

I'm going to make a bold statement here...you might be giving away your power. 

If you can only enforce your boundaries when you feel like the other person “gets it” you are giving away your power.

It’s totally normal to feel like it is easier to set or state a boundary when you know it will be received well.

Because it is!! It will likely feel WAY less uncomfortable for you. 

But if it feels like you can’t set a boundary because you are fearing a bad reaction or don’t think they will understand, you may not be owning your CHOICE in the situation.

Maybe you see your boss or supervisor over-working or it seems like they never turn off work mode, and it feels like they expect you to do the same.

Or maybe you hold a belief that you should always be showing that you are a hard worker, so it’s hard to switch off sometimes.

So you check your work email one more time before going to bed...or spend time that should be spent with loved ones thinking about all you need to do. 

Whatever is true for you, it is a CHOICE that you are making. You are CHOOSING to work beyond what is appropriate/within your capacity.

EVEN if it feels like it is expected of you, the power to choose to do it is still yours.

This is an important point….

After all, if it is not within your power to choose TO do it, then it would also not be in your power to choose NOT to do it.

And that is very disempowering and simply not true!

**Now, I'm not talking about choosing not to work when you have a pressing deadline, or refusing to do something that is a stated requirement of your job. 

What I'm talking about here is the feeling that you should be constantly working past your normal hours, or pushing yourself to get more done when what you really need is to unplug so that you can come back refreshed.

If you don't own your choice in the situation, it will feel impossible to set the boundaries you know you need. 

OWNING YOUR CHOICE=STAYING IN YOUR POWER!!

Could you use some help with your boundaries?

It is sooo much easier to do when you have some support and someone to cheer you on through the discomfort.

Schedule a chat with me if you need this!

This is one of my favorite things to support my clients with. The results are life changing!