Do we have this in common?

Do you ever find yourself saying yes to something you really would rather say no to?

I used to do this all the time, and it’s like as soon as I heard myself saying yes, I started wondering how in the world I’m going to fit this request into my already over -packed schedule.

And then I would inwardly yell at myself for once again, letting someone else’s needs be more important than my own. After all, I KNOW better. I talk about self care all the time, so it was extra frustrating that I kept letting it happen.

As I added the new commitment to my schedule, I felt my chest getting heavy, which made my breathing more shallow.

I felt overall deflated and heavy. It felt like a pattern that I would never figure out how to break.

And that is because it can feel really difficult to say no sometimes and almost like it’s a conflict of values.

If I value being of service and helping people, how can I say no to this request? It doesn’t feel good to let people down and it feels like I’m saying I don’t care about this person if I say no.

But it also doesn’t feel good to constantly let myself down by overcommitting, overdoing and letting things that are important to me slide to the end of the to-do list.

It was a game changer for me when I learned how to tune into my body to see if this was a YES or a NO for me. Was I wanting to say yes out of guilt or obligation, or did I truly want to do it? My body always knew.

Having that crucial skill of pausing, noticing what I was really feeling, and putting some structures in place to support ME really helped me to break that cycle of saying yes out of habit.

And actually, I realized that me enforcing my boundaries was really a gift to everyone around me, because I was no longer showing up to things wearing a forced smile but feeling resentful. And I had the energy to show up with even more support and joy for the things that were a YES for me.

I can help you with this too. This is a big part of what I do with my BodyMind Coaching clients. If this resonates with you, let's chat!

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