I don’t know who needs to hear this today…

I don’t know who needs to hear this today but…

You can set boundaries at any time.

You don’t have to wait until you’re in a new job, have new co-workers, or new friends and can start fresh with the boundaries you want now.

You don’t have to keep putting up with something just because you have in the past.

It’s ok to change your mind about what works for you and what doesn’t.

It’s not weird or impossible to let people know that you are no longer available at x time or that you are no longer open to discussing xyz.

Or whatever it is that’s making you feel resentful when people do it to you.

It IS likely uncomfortable to make these changes.

You might have some fear around disappointing or upsetting people, or worry that you’ll be seen as selfish, irresponsible, or even lazy. And that will feel scary and uncomfortable.

But that doesn’t mean you can’t learn to work through the discomfort and speak your needs to the people around you right NOW.

I know it’s tempting to think it will all be better in a new situation, and that you’ll come in to it letting people know exactly what to expect from you. I know that seems WAY easier than changing what people already expect.

But it’s not.

If you haven’t done the inner work to actually express your boundaries (more than just the one time), it won’t be any different, and you’ll soon be trapped in the same situation, thinking that people aren’t respecting your boundaries, when really you haven’t yet worked through the discomfort around expressing them.

This inner work is what I do with my clients! 

If you need this, the best thing to do is to schedule a free consult with me so we can look at all the ways it’s showing up in your life and outline a plan to create the changes you want to see.